It is positioned at the same exact degree and angle every night, so I know even in a sleepy haze, what button to push. The trauma of emotional abuse and manipulation never leaves you. It is scarred into your psyche. It drives your behavior. I am running to get away from my abuser.
I am still running. He was right. Hardly any of my friends did believe me. I mostly suffered in silence, and shame. There are resources, therapies and medications available to help victims. My therapy.
How to Get Out of an Abusive Relationship
But, for now, I do what works best for myself. Teaching them how to be leavers, not stayers, and fighters, not always lovers -- is how I remain strong.
I give them age appropriate tools and resources to stay out of abusive relationships. But, it might not be enough. The bleak reality is that one in three women have been victims of physical abuse in some form in their lifetime. I am taking away the strength my abuser had over me -- and funneling that power to myself and to awareness. Physical and emotional abuse scar people. Violence, in all forms, is unacceptable.
If you’re in an abusive relationship
But, I can create the new narrative of my life. I can help other victims and survivors write their new narratives too. Also on HuffPost:. Help us tell more of the stories that matter from voices that too often remain unheard. Join HuffPost Plus.
Alanna Vagianos. Consider personal values, desires, and needs when discussing what can and cannot be done. Reaching out to someone who can offer support will help in the long run, as they can be there during this difficult time. They can also help victims remember what it used to be like before the relationship, and how they are worth and lovable.
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At the end of the day, love is not controlling. Everyone deserves a healthy relationship! But there are options.
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Send a message to the Crisis Text Line. Or if you live near a large hospital system or university, you can often see a psychologist-in-training for free. The Association of Psychology Training Clinics has very low-cost or free options all around the country. Talking to a professional will help you truly heal and find your strength again. But this pattern can stop with some tough emotional work.
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It might sound a little corny, but you have to love yourself. No matter how any boyfriend, dad, mom, or family member in your past made you feel, you deserve love. Yes, it will be hard. Yes, it will be scary. No one deserves to be abused. With planning and support, you can leave safely. So if this applies to you, start your plan today. Take your time and check all your details.
You can do it. And you are loved. Amber Petty is a freelance writer in Los Angeles.
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