Follow Metro. All you can do is listen to your gut and hope for the best. Good luck. The Fix The daily lifestyle email from Metro. Sign up. I Love You is the title of at least 47 songs, 15 albums and 13 movies in the English-language canon. The phrase, or a version thereof, adorns items as tiny as guitar picks and large as bags of dog kibble. And we get so close to saying it so often! So much. Yet when it comes to actually speaking the words out loud, to another person, whose face we can actually see, people can get squeamish.
Why is that? TIME put the question to some therapists that we — well, that some might say we like very, very much. Here are some of their theories, and their advice.
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Psychologists have observed that modern relationships do not follow the map that used to help people guide their way to commitment. People used to meet, go out on a few dates, decide not to date anyone else, learn to trust each other, fall in love, say Those Three Words and then either officially partner up and maybe marry, or break up and fall into a deep funk before starting the process all over again.
The relationships were more or less linear. Now, ambiguity is the thing.
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Ambiguity feels protective. Loving is like hugging with your soul. Or maybe it's not baggage; maybe you have too much going on in your life to make a real effort. Some say that there is always time for love. If this is you, don't lie to yourself and make promises that you won't keep. With that being said, if you've found someone to love, then you'd better figure out a way to make time for that person. You'll regret it if you don't. Maybe time isn't an issue; maybe you're too young. It's not something to be ashamed of -- unless you're 30 or older.
Once you hit 30, you don't need to get married and start a family, but you should be mature enough to truly appreciate a good thing when you see it. If not, then you must not be learning from your mistakes.
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If you love someone, say it. And give love only if you can do it fully and passionately. Things always do. I want to say that things get easier as we get older, but that isn't always the case. And by "wise up," I mean, "come to the conclusion that no one is perfect. And the good ones -- those that touch us and impact our lives -- come in a blue moon. Until you really understand all that, you'll always have a few questions: What if?
What if this person isn't "the one"?
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But loving is never a mistake. Don't blame love for your indiscretions. Relationships are easy until they're not. They're easy until rough times make it difficult for us to be happy. Until shit happens to us that rocks our little worlds. Until we stop putting in the effort that we once did. Until we stop feeling loved like we once did. Until we make mistakes…. If you can promise to ride things out for as long as reasonable, you're ready to love.